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What matters most: the problems with measurement

By Sophia Duvall, Nov 15 2015 06:00PM

As you may or may not know, I’ve become a relatively active user of twitter in recent months (follow me here, if you don't already). I love connecting with other companions and clients there, and I enjoy the free flow of information and flirtation. It stimulates both the exhibitionist and the voyeur in me, subtle as they both usually are. In any case, I recently tweeted a poll from my account, out of curiosity about this new feature that had just been rolled out on twitter. I decided to ask a particular question that often comes up in the demimonde: specifically, the question of reviews. Do clients prefer to see a companion who accepts reviews and has some floating out there on the internet, or do they prefer to see a companion who doesn’t take them at all? In the UK, where I primarily reside, it is highly unusual for a lady not to take reviews. It’s far more common in the US, for some reason (potentially legal ramifications). I have complex feelings on reviews, which I’ll get to, a bit later on.

In any case, 59 people responded to the poll. 64% of respondents voted that they preferred to see a companion who has/takes reviews, whereas 36% voted that they prefer to see a companion who doesn’t take reviews. Frankly I was surprised at the number of people who 1) responded at all, and 2) responded that they preferred to see companions who don’t take reviews. In both cases, it was far higher turnout than I expected. Fifty-nine votes is a small sample, yet also a relatively high number for a single person without a huge following on twitter (at the time of the poll I had just over 600 followers). I know of large organisations that put out polls to their members, and get far fewer responses!

Clients who prefer reviews tend to be vocal about it; and up until this point, I’d never heard specific opinions vocalised by a client who preferred to see someone who doesn’t take reviews, hence my surprise. However I am aware from other colleagues who don’t take reviews that there is a whole section of the population who engage companions who would prefer to see someone who doesn’t accept reviews. Indeed, I am curious to know more about them.

Back to the poll: there are a number of limitations and biases to consider. For example, construct validity: does the poll measure what it purports to measure? The poll itself is simplistic. When I made it, I was limited to a short question, with only two short responses. Secondly, I was not allowed the space in the poll to present any nuance in the questions. There was no option to say e.g. “yes, I prefer a companion who has reviews, but only a limited number of reviews and only a certain level of detail.” People may have been on the fence, but were forced to choose one way or the other if they wanted to participate. In any case, construct validity here is potentially weak.

Another concern is sample selection bias. Were the people who responded only those with very strong opinions? Likely, especially since the poll required respondents to pick a preference. i.e. there was no option for indifference. Were people with certain characteristics more likely to respond than others? Who were the people who saw the poll? Were they people who specifically follow me, or did they find the poll via a retweet from another account? I know of several clients who read my twitter feed, but don’t actually follow it, therefore weren't able to vote; I would certainly be curious as to how they would respond.

My own opinion on reviews is mixed. I recognise that there are a lot of companions out there in the world – there’s a little something (or rather, somebody!) for everyone. When seeking the company of such a lady, you look at a lot of websites and profiles, wondering who is the right one for you. I can see that reviews could give you an impression of what someone is generally like, and whether you might like what they have to offer or not. However I find that review culture lends itself to reviewing a menu of services, rather than a whole experience. I personally don’t offer a menu of services (nor do many of my colleagues), rather I offer an experience based on specific chemistry. I offer intimacy that is both cerebral and sensual, intellectual and carnal, and it is very different with each and every person I meet; this can be difficult indeed to capture in a review. Not only that, but some review sites ask you to rate providers out of 10, and the more services they offer the higher they can be rated; as you might imagine, this puts pressure on companions to offer services they might not be comfortable with. Rating human beings out of 10 is problematic, in a few ways. Not the least is that what is a fine wine to one person can taste too heavy or too sweet to another.

So far, I am lightly reviewed and generally tastefully so. In most ways, I am a private person, and the demimonde is no exception. I realise there is some tension between my desire for privacy and my desire to let people know what they can generally anticipate when they see me. This is a significant reason why I write blog posts and use twitter. It provides a little bit of insight into my mind and interests, which perhaps give you some idea of what our chemistry together could be like. For the time being I will continue to accept reviews, but that might change at some point in the not-too-distant future. I would much prefer to focus entirely on my companion in the moments we are together, and let nothing else matter or enter our mind.